What I’m Doing

Hey Everyone,

Just wanted to take a minute and say thank you all for all the support.  It is overwhelmingly nice.  I am glad that you all have loved having me back writing so much and that it inspires you to do great things in your lives.  I love writing.  I always have and always will.  It’s a piece of me.  A major piece of me!

I have gone through a lot in life and I have been blessed with the ability to put what I have gone through and how I feel into written form and share it with others.  It’s not about me though.  I do this because I know that there are people out there that are going through, have gone through, or will go through the same experiences and I hope it helps to know that there is someone else out there that knows how you or they feel.  That is what my writing is about.I love to sit down and just put myself out there.  I have always considered myself a open book for anyone to read and I wouldn’t change that for anything.

I am writing this right now to tell you that it means the world to me that I get to do this.  I also am writing to tell you that there are some exciting things that I am working on that I have only shared with a few people for now, until now.

Back in June of 2009, I started a website called jspikething.com.  It was a celebrity gossip site.    It went over really well and had a lot of hits to it every day of the week.  I was reaching  a large audience with what I had to say and I saw it going places.  In September of 2009, things in my life took a big change for the worse and I had to step away from it and let it go.  It was devastating!  I always told myself that I wanted to go back but I wanted to do it differently.  If I were to ever start a website again, I wasn’t going to jump in and go overboard with it and let it take me over the same way that I let jspikething.com take me over.

This message is to announce that on Friday, February 4th, 2011, my dreams of owning a website, and a second chance will finally come to realization.  It’s not going to be a celebrity gossip site.  It may from time to time talk about entertainment, but over all it is going to be a mix of everything that has anything to do with my life.  I do have a plan to ease into it this time.  I won’t be able to dedicate nearly as much time as I did to jspikething.com (posting usually 25-80 posts a day), but I will do my best to keep it updated with new blog entries when I can.  The goal would eventually be put in a position where I can make a career of it, but we will see.

JER24SEVEN.COM will be officially up on February 4th.  It is a work in progress.  For now I will be keeping it linked to wordpress.com, but will eventually move on to it being hosted by another company.  In time all the pieces will fall into place.  Please do come and check it out and let me know what you think.  I look forward to hearing from you soon.  Thanks again for all the support.

Your Friend,

Jer

MAKE A DECISION ALREADY!!!!

You’re in the car and you’re all ready to go, but where are you going?  UMMM….I DUNNO!?!

It drives me crazy in a relationship when you ask “What do you want to do?” and it’s always “I dunno, you decide.”  What do you want to eat?  “Umm…I dunno, you decide.”  How in the world am I supposed to decide what you want to eat?  It doesn’t happen that way, sorry.  It just doesn’t.  We are all born with things we like and we all have feelings about what we want and when.  I don’t want to be in a relationship with someone where I have to make every decision, because the other person would prefer just doing what I want to do or eating what I want to eat.  I want someone who can make a decision or at least can throw out some options and have a personality of their own and likes and dislikes and all of that.  I mean yeah, I get it…”aww he’s being a nice guy and letting you decide.”  Yeah…umm…that’s cute in the beginning, not after months and years of a relationship.  I

I want and need someone that can make decisions together and we each have input on them.  I’m not even talking about the small stuff like where to go and eat dinner or where to go to have fun.  I’m talking about on everything.  I don’t want to be in a relationship where everything I say automatically goes.  I want someone to give their opinion and feelings on things and have some input.  “Oh you want to move back to Oklahoma and go back into the closet and pretend like we’re not together?  When we moving?”  Seriously dude grow a backbone!  “Hell no I won’t move and do that!  I’m not going to waste my time with it…other options please.”  That seriously is very valuable to me.  To be in a relationship with someone who can take a stand and play a part in making decisions.

It makes me wonder how the person ever got by without me and that’s not what I want.  I want someone who knew themselves before getting with me.  Someone that had goals and was ambitious about going out and achieving them.  Someone who isn’t dependent on me, but that adjusted his already busy life to fit me in and sacrifice some some of that time to make me a part of his life and me make him a part of mine.  It’s very important to me that we are both driven to exceed in life.

This isn’t going to be the same in every single relationship.  Everyone has their own individual wants and needs.  Don’t think well Jeremy said that we have to both be career oriented and goal driven, so that’s how it has to be to make this thing work.  Not what I am saying at all.  I am just voicing my own needs.  Some people can pull off the one parent staying at home with the kids or the one partner staying home and taking care of the house duties.  That is absolutely fine if you have that agreement in your relationship and it’s working for both of you and you are both being appreciated for what you do from each other.  That’s wonderful!  But it’s just not for me.   Not at all.

I think the whole decision making thing has a lot to do with knowing yourself.  If you go through life without being able to make a decision, you probably don’t know what you want, which means you really don’t know yourself yet.  That is something you need to fix long before you go into a relationship.  You can’t expect someone else to know you if you don’t even know yourself yet.  It won’t work.  Don’t be in the middle of a relationship and just now start trying to figure out who you are.  Who you are has nothing to do with who you are with currently.  Who you are is solely based on YOU.  Can you change around certain things and make some sacrifices for the person you are with?  Sure.  But the foundation of you is YOU, and that should and never will change.  So, figure out who you are and what your foundation is right now.  Like for instance, what you believe as far as religion or spiritual beliefs.  Which political party you side with more.  If you want kids.   What you want to do with your life as far as career.  And so on and so forth.  That stuff should all be the foundation of who you are and will probably never change once you have yourself figured out and you know who you are for sure.  Then you can make a decision on your own and you’ll be ready for that relationship you’ve always wanted.

I think that is what upsets me so much about people who can make a decision even on the basic level of decision making, is that they didn’t respect themselves enough to figure themselves out in life and what they want, how could they ever expect anyone else to respect them?  That’s blunt, but it’s really the truth.  I can’t care about you if you don’t care for yourself.

You’re not going to get to this point of decision making, the point that comes after you know yourself, over night.  It takes time and patience, but if you spend it and make an effort to get to know yourself, you won’t regret it.  You’ll have so many people respecting you so much more.  Trust me!  Find your foundation and stand on it, so people like me don’t get so frustrated with you because you can’t make a decision.

That’s all I got on this one folks.  I hope you enjoyed reading it.  If you got comments please leave em.  If you wanna talk with me about what you read please feel free to reach out to me through text or whatever.  My info is on the home page of the this blog.  Until next time…..

Peace out my blog junkies,

J

ONE WORD

Have you ever stopped and thought about what one word can do?

Or the thoughts that one word can invoke?

Could you imagine just getting a text from some one that just said “Stronger”?  Huh?  What’s stronger?  Are you stronger?  Are you saying that you’ve been working out a lot and you feel stronger now?  Did looking in the mirror give you this thought?  You look down and see a muscle you’ve never seen before?  Or does this have to do with you emotionally?  I knew you were having relationship issues, are you finally beyond them?  Are you stronger now?  Are you talking about me?  Do I look stronger to you?  Or are you singing some word from a song?

See that one word can invoke so much thought and raise so many questions.  A picture can say a thousand words, but guess what?!?  One word can ask a thousand questions.

How about “dirty”?  Where does your mind go with that word?  You read it on a tweet or a status update some where.  What in the world is that person doing?  Is he/she cleaning a load of laundry and just realized how dirty the clothes were?  Is their room a mess?  Are they about to get frisky and they just don’t know how to put it into anymore than one word?  Did they just read a dirty joke and want to share with the world that they found it to be dirty?  Why would they get me started on this thought and just leave me hanging like this, I gotta respond and see what is going on.  I want to know more!

One single word can say so much at times.  It can leave you in so much thought and asking so many questions that a conversation is sure to be inspired.  That or someone is going to think you’re really weird.  Why is this guy sending me one word texts?  Hasn’t graduated to sentences yet?  I’m so lost!

Now then, think of what single words mean to you.  Take “love” for instance.  Just hearing or reading the word brings out so many feelings.  Love can mean a lot of different things to a lot of different people.  It’s not the same for anyone.  My definition and feelings about love are completely different than anyone else’s feelings about love are.  So my thoughts that come to mind are going to be different.  I hear or read “love” anywhere and I think about my son.  I think about family and friends.  I think about the things in life that I love.  It inspires me to think even deeper thoughts about if I will ever find true love, the love that lasts forever.  Then I start thinking about past relationships and how each of them were different and what was perfect in each of them and was not so perfect.  What I would change in future relationships.

I hear or read someone say “cute” and I think “aww look at that cute puppy dog”.  I might also think “wow, he’s really attractive!” or I might think “ok, it’s working, I’ve become more attractive ..WTG!”  Well, maybe not think WTG, because I don’t usually think letters when I think, I just say it out in my mind.  Like I can not just be like “omg” in my mind.  “o-m-g” doesn’t mean anything in my mind.  I just say it all out like “oh my gosh”.  And then “WTG”, my mind would be like “WTF (Just said out) is he talking about ‘WTG’”.  So somewhere, in between reading or saying it, it translates it and everything is smooth sailing.

Smooth sailing?  Is there really any such thing as smooth sailing?  I mean you’re on a boat in the middle of the water, letting a piece of cloth on a pole give you power to guide you along.  Sure you got control of the pole and the direction, but what if the cloth or pole break and you have no paddles?  How smooth sailing are you now?

What about when someone just sends you a text or a tweet or some other form of communication and it just has your name and an explanation point.  “JEREMY!”.  OH CRAP!  WTF did I do now?!?  Or….Oh no is everything ok?  Or….This person has some really exciting news to share with me.  Are they getting married?  Did they get a new puppy?  When are they going to send a pic?  Why didn’t they just send a pic instead of getting me worried with “JEREMY!”?  People can be so inconsiderate sometimes.  I mean seriously…I’m already planning the wedding, because that is what a gay guys does when you send them a text or tweet with just their name and an explanation point.  We’re already on the phone getting the flowers picked out and then BAM! we get another text and it’s a picture of a little puppy!  HOW DARE YOU!  And the flowers were going to be the most gorgeous flowers you’ve ever seen.  I mean like full blown going all out pink roses with the red tips and everything.  NOT ANYMORE!  Now when you really tell me you are are getting married, you get carnations and sunflowers.  Just the cost of sending me “JEREMY!” and getting my hopes all up.

Not even talking about words anymore, what about when someone sends you one of those face things made from symbols?  That’s all they send is a smiley face.  HUH?  Ok, you’re happy now tell me the story behind it.  Or after you just got through sending someone this long drawn out text and you gave your all in typing it up and made it sound really great.  You just put your whole heart into it and you want them to know how madly in love with them you are (i’ve never done this before, but just saying).  You wait for that reply after they get through reading it and you’re waiting for them to tell you how much in love they are in love with you too and you get this  ” ” .  WHAT?!?  Where’s the other part of the message?  Does that mean something like “ditto” or is this them gently letting me down?  What should I think?  So you resend them the same message you just sent them again just to make sure they got it (they love it when you do this!  Again, I’ve never done it before.  Just saying).

Oh and Did you hear that we have all become ghosts?  Seriously.  Especially in the gay community.  It has to be and someone didn’t notify me, because I get “boo” a lot.  “I like you boo”.  “I want to be with you boo”.  “Good night boo”.  Or even just “BOO!”.   Ahhh!  You seriously scared me with that one.  I wasn’t ready for that text that made a notification noise and vibrated.  It was a shocker to open the text and see “boo”.  Freaky!  I’m just wondering why they didn’t attach a picture of them self wearing a white sheet with holes cut out for eyes.  Now that would be scary!

How about “I’m just saying” after someone says something in a tweet or text.  Yup.  You’re just saying.  I just read it.  I didn’t think anyone stole your screen name and password.  I knew it was you and that you said it.  I don’t need clarification.  I see your screen name or name on my phone and I kinda figure it’s you talking.  And if it’s not, go ahead and have whoever you let borrow your screen name and password say “Tiffany is just saying”.  Okay, Tiffany borrowed John’s screen name for the day.  She had something to say and didn’t have a screen name of her own to use, so John loaned her his for the day.  Thanks for the clarification.  I couldn’t imagine John saying something like that.  It’s just not him.  I kinda figured it was Tiffany.  Crazy girl needs to get a screen name her own.

I can still remember the first time I saw “lmao” in a chat room back in the day (yeah…way back in the day…what day I’m not sure, but it was a part of one of those days way back a long time ago).  I was like “huh?”.  I thought “ok this person accidentally hit their elbow on the keyboard and hit enter”, but then they kept on doing it over and over again.  I finally had to ask.  The person explained to it to me and automatically I had to wonder how much of a butt this person had left, because they were laughing it off a lot.  I mean like every other second they were laughing their butt off and it was at stuff that wasn’t that funny.  They were just addicted to using the term.

Then gradually “lmao” became “lmfao”, because “lmao” didn’t get the point across well enough.  I’m not only “lmao”, but I’m now “lmfao”.  Then if that doesn’t work for you and you got to take things to a new extreme go ahead and “lmmfao”.  If you’re going to do that though, you might as well just say “laughing”, but that would take the fun away from it.

Our minds are so intrigued by turning everything into an abbreviation that the abbreviations gradually become words of their own.  I have just finally started making up my own.  “MDIMU”.  People are like “wtf” and I’m like “Duh, Making Dinner In My Underwear..get with the times dude”.  Throws them for a loop!  Keeps things interesting!   If anyone can make up some crazy stuff…it’s gonna be me!  Sometimes people don’t even say anything.  Like they know and understand what I just said.  I can just imagine their face when they get it “huh?  Should I ask him what that stands for or just pretend I know what it means?”  Or they try to figure it out with random words and I get a reply of “My Dumb Idiot Mother UGH!?”  or even better “What did she do now?”.  HUH?

Okay, that is my rant on words and what they can do.  Our words can do a lot of things and invoke a lot of thought.  Use them wisely and not in a way to confuse people.  There are a lot of people out there that hang on your every word.  I’m not for sure how they hang on a word, but it happens and often.  Once I figure out I will let you know.  Seriously though, understand that our words hold a lot of power and can make a big difference in someone’s life.  Choose them wisely!  They might make someone’s day, week, month, year, or even life.  Look at the power of “I do”.  You mean something to this world and your words, regardless if you realize it or not, make a difference in someone’s life.  And for God’s sake stop “LMAO”, you might need it later!

Thank you for reading my blog.  If you have anything to say about it, please reach out to me.  You can tweet me on twitter (@jspikething).  You can shoot me an e-mail (j_spike_thing@yahoo.com), or you can even send me a text (707-280-2163).  As always I look forward to hearing from you and making new friends.

Lots of love blog junkies,

J